Having a relationship come to an end isn’t any fun, and anybody that tells you differently is either lying or delusional. If you have been through a break up, then you are not alone; it happens to almost everybody at least once in their lives. But trying to get over an ex can be a lot harder to deal with than the break up itself. The good news is that there are things you can do to get on with your life.
1. Let it out. You’re human and you have feelings. However, keeping them bottled up will only lead to trouble of one kind or another. It can effect your health, or you may take out your negative feelings on people who had nothing to do with your break up. Therefore, it’s important let your feelings out and to find positive ways to express them. A good way to do this is to write a letter to your ex. Say everything you can think of, call them names, tell them off, pour your heart out. Feel free to write anything, because nobody will ever read it. Once the letter is done, burn it. This exercise works on many different levels and will help you to get over the break up.
2. Get rid of the reminders. The longer you have been involved in a relationship, the more stuff you will have that reminds you of your ex. It’s okay to keep them if you really want to, but put them out of sight for a while. Store them in an attic, or see if a trusted friend or family member can take them. You can get the stuff back once you are sure you are over your ex.
3. Use a support network. This is just a fancy way of saying you have family and friends that care about you. They want what’s best for you, so be sure to go to them when you need somebody to talk to. Be careful to not overdo it to the point of being a nuisance, but don’t be afraid to talk to them either. Sometimes just talking to somebody is all it takes to start moving on.
4. Live your life. While you may be focusing on the negative aspects of breaking up, there are some positive points as well. One of those is that you are no longer limited by your ex. If you want to start a new hobby or take a long dreamed of vacation, then nobody’s stopping you. Go out with friends and have some fun. Not only will you have a blast, but it will also help you to get your mind off your ex.
It won’t always be easy, but you can move on. Following the tips above will put you on the right track to get over an ex. Give it time and stick with it; you will be happier than ever and that will make all of your efforts worthwhile.